Saturday, September 14, 2024

patterns in her life March 11, 2014

 

  

I was wrong about the photo.  it's still there on her site just located in her archive

 so anything about her Yanking it down the way she clearly did the two poems last year was mistaken

she may still blame me for being the root cause of her mess but not I think for the last batch of disasters

she got fired because she pushed her luck and went into a crash that brought her back to her eating disorder she seems to blame her and eating disorder for her other problems when it appears that eating disorder is simply manifestation of other more serious unresolved problems in our life

each time something else goes wrong she has an eating disorder relapse.

 the failed schemes for success, the ruined romances, the rest lead inevitably back to this concept of self-destruction made most obvious by her binging

the ego issues are just too complex to make out except to say that she thinks so little of herself that she needs to cheat to find some level of power, putting on mask that she unfortunately eventually believes in herself, a self delusion that comes unraveled each time the mask slips and she finds that she is the same person she always was, and all that she thought she gained turns out to be an illusion, up and smoke, her internal voices of eating reform and eating disorder seem to reflect other battles going on inside her, a real mental turmoil with real conversations and conflicts

the ripping off of her mask by her mother father grandmother or whoever that poem was written to comes at the worst possible time since she has already used up all her reserve strength and has taken refuge in a clinic she hopes can cure her

but it is the wrong cure of or the right cure for the wrong problem and so she feels trapped and seeks escape

this is as bad or worse than hell, as  trappedas she must have felt back in the early 2011 when she saw her hopes and dreams at the restaurant going up and smoke and fled to Europe where she could reinvent herself

this trip South now did not bring the expected relief and she fled one bad situation for another even worse and she is trapped in a place where she thinks other people do not like her and has been rejected by someone she hoped could help save her

 so what is left for her to do to flee again to some other place but where and will she ever feel safe again

 


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