Friday, January 17, 2025

Hard boiled? June 2014

  

Her most recent poem (which I still suspect is aimed at RR) made me realize something important about our poet’s character.

She is not nearly as hard boiled as she would like people to believe.

Even after she has moved on from someone, she still retains some measure of tenderness towards that person.

I can’t say this is true of all her ex-lovers, but it is clear from this poem that she still had tender feelings towards the person she was writing it to.

In some measure, she showed similar feelings towards me even in the aftermath of her forgiveness poem – as demonstrated in her poems about compassion and quick sand.

Even some of her writing about her chef ere couched with similar tones, even though he eventually became her primary stalker for a time.

I know almost nothing about those who preceded him, with the possible exception of her ex-husband, who remained her friend despite his years of jealousy while they were still married.

I suspect she would have even retained some tender feelings towards the man who drugged and raped her, had he been satisfied with what she had offered rather than seeking to take more than he deserved.

After all, he had hit on her so often (even though he was her girlfriend’s boyfriend) she appeared to take pity on him and consented to have sex originally with him. Had he been satisfied with that and refrained from his horrible act later, she might have had some better feelings towards him later.

How she felt about her female lover is a mystery, though the woman eventually also became a stalker, and ruined whatever kind of peaceful resolution they might have come to.

Our poet once told me that there were always stalkers in her life, some worse than others.

Yet I suspect that she is far more vulnerable behind that hard shell she retains, and seeks to be firm in order to keep from being hurt.

 


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