The importance of being important July 13, 2013

 

With all that transpires here and in the Virgin Mayor’s domain, I begin to realize our poet’s desperate need for importance, her need to have a place in whatever world (or shell) she has currently adopted, a concept prior to this that has always seemed somewhat alien to me.

I’ve always been an outcast, even when it did not always appear that way. Our poet has been, too, although she seems to hate that role, while I have always come to embrace it.

As an outcast since she was a kid, she has perpetually struggled to find a place of importance in whatever micro society she has become involve in, hating the idea of being seen as worker-bee (while at the same time boasting about it), when she clearly has talents that makes her better than that, and offers her much more potentially for the future, willing to use those talents to find a position where she is respected.

Some feminists I knew in college embraced a philosophy that has since become the dominant philosophy espoused that women have to use all they have in order to make their way in a world dominated by men – this includes sleeping their way to the top if necessary.

A year ago, I might have seen this as immoral, yet now, I realize that some women have no choice. It is a matter of using someone or being used, and some women – like our poet apparently—disguise themselves as “being used” in order to use those who would use them.

A powerful man like our owner becomes immoral when he allows exploits women like our poet because he controls their destiny (most often through finances), while women like our poet manages out of necessity to exploit this situation, pretending to be needy or desperate (when they may indeed actually be so) in order to get some advantage, they would not get if they stood on some artificial morality.

This is what I think our poet meant when she penned the poem about fair and unfair, right and wrong.

At those times, those distinctions cease, and it comes down to survival, and to the belief that if you don’t exploit these opportunities, you lose, because they immoral people of power will find some other way to you and abuse you.

And if someone is going to use you anyway, you might as well get some benefit, and if you’re clever, you’re the one who wins in the end.

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