Saturday, December 31, 2022

The mythical married man

 

  

Written late February 2013

  

So, from her poetry posts, she seems to be in love or at least, heavy lust.

 This is extremely rare for her.

 As her poem from last summer indicated, she’s only been in love a few times in her life. Men tend to fall in love with her, not the other way around.

 It has to be a remarkable person for her to go after the way her poetry suggests she is going after this guy.

 This raises questions about what this man is like.

 Most likely, he’s Latino with a Latin name.

 Since he’s married – possibly for a few years – he’s probably slightly older or younger than she is, no older than 40 and no younger than 29.

 He’s probably very positive about himself, mildly successful, but somewhat shy, even formal, insisting on doing things properly, and thus treating her with that old fashion sense of respect.

 If he has a flaw, it is that he is too nice, too careful not to offend her, or leave her with the impression that he is only with her because he’s attracted to her beauty.

 He probably has an interest sense of humor, likes music, maybe literature, and likes to listen to what she has to say. He’s also playful, with a remarkably innocent kind of flirting.

 Most likely, he speaks carefully, maybe a little slowly, making sure of what he is saying, and is strangely moral. He loves his wife. He is devoted to her, and though he may find her (our poet) attractive, he will be reluctant to come on to her or do anything that would seem so, and yet, at the same time, may well feel so comfortable around her that sometimes he will come very close to embracing her.

 He is probably well built, but not overly muscular, possibly once an athlete in school who keeps in shape more for health than for being macho.

 On the surface, he seems quiet and unassuming, although behind those dark eyes of his smolders real passion she can read each time they’re together. She probably admires his ability to contain his lust, when she clearly is finding it difficult to contain hers.

 He most likely makes his living as a businessman or some profession, such as a doctor.

 And he is one of those people who legitimately wants nothing more out of life than to be happy, to be with the right person, and to feel needed.

 Most likely, he has something of a long, oval face, with dark intense eyes, a narrow forehead, a thin nose, a slightly wide mouth that she finds she would like to kiss all the time and resists doing so. He may have a small scar from some mishap in sports at school, but his skin would otherwise be largely unmarred, making him look younger slightly than his actual age.

 He would likely have narrow shoulders, the kind you would find on someone who was a runner or played tennis, and equally narrow chest – but fully developed, a flat stomach, thin thighs and long legs.

 He’s probably slightly taller than she is, requiring her to look up at him when they are close.

 He would have a calm expression when not involved with anything, thoughtful, as if has no cares in the world.

 But when he smiles, his whole expression explodes into something very bright, making him all the more attractive. His mouth revels a lot about what he is feeling, pressed closed and slightly pale when upset about something. His jaw shifts slight to the side when he is puzzled or thinking more intently about something.

 His gaze is always curious about things, especially when he looked at her. It is an innocent gaze like a young boy learning about new things or experiencing things he’s never experienced before. When he looks at her, however, he shows an intense attraction that he quickly hides away, a bit ashamed about it considering he is married.

 Although he is not afraid to touch her, or be touched by her, provided it doesn’t go too far.

 He has thin, gentle hands that move in front of his chest as he talks as if he is trying to shape his thoughts in the air.

 He seems remarkably formal, not stiff so much as proper, when he sits or walks, although he is not uncomfortable to sit with or walk beside.

 He wears good clothing, tan shirts, black or brown pants, purchased from some reasonably priced haberdashery in an ethnic area near where he lives. It is fashionable, but not flashy, and generally very clean and new. She could not imagine him wearing anything other than what he wears, except for imagining him wearing nothing at all.

 He likely wears real leather shoes, well-polished, and sometimes wears a jacket, but no tie.

 He likely has very attentive and carrying parents, if not successful themselves, made sure he got the education he needed to achieve what he has achieved. He most likely met his wife through some social function connected with his career.

 He has never before cheated on her.

 While not overly religious, he respects the faith of his parents, and likely married in a church.

 He loves music and dancing, going out to dinner, perhaps even shows, and finds her (our poet) fascinating because she has so much talent, her music, her art, her photography and her writing.

 He most likely intends to advance in his career, finding a management position of some sort or set up a professional office of his own.

 He rarely loses his temper, but when he does, it is because someone innocent has been wronged and he wants to set it right.

 He most likely has a quirky sense of humor, something akin to hers, which makes him even more attractive.

 But in some ways, he is completely different from her, somewhat remote, so that she sometimes is puzzled about what he is thinking, while hoping he is thinking about her.

 This remoteness makes him seem mysterious to her, and even more attractive.

 

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