I have yet to make up my mind as to whether her healing blog
is designed to impress somebody --perhaps her therapist -- or is a means of
cleaning up her public reputation after having undergone the most damage
perhaps in her life
She spent several days this week at a retreat along the
Hudson River where she gets to meditate. she apparently goes there after each
collapse and went there for the first time 6 years ago when she broke away from
the band and moved into a New York village
Then she went there just after she got forced to resign from
our office and Autumn 2012
Her going there now this week suggests that she is still
deep in the crisis and grasping for answers she hopes retreat will provide
She said there are pockets of silence there and that during
her previous visits bothered her. At the time she had difficulty doing yoga or
meditating her compacted class schedule disagreed with other students’ meals
hunger etc.
But this time she said she felt content with the silence. It
is something she is worked very hard for and while it is brief and small relative to the
usual hamster brain going on inside of her that she sometimes quiets down-- but
is always there
At this point we get a bit of her self-reflection with her
honest or not I can't tell
She says she now knows she has changed fundamentally
permanently wonderfully the changes are both monumental and not
She shared a meditation class that asked if she was able to
face the full range of human emotion without fear.
sure she said before
the class began she has experience in every emotion and spades especially over
the last few months but then they began to explore the concept of desire and
she started to cry.
At which point she began to realize that desire was the
driving force behind her struggles that was her life mission not to have any --
if it meant wanting what you never get or meant being ridiculed or hurt for
having it.
It meant rumblings in a body she hated for food and sex
which meant interaction with people. She feared gaining weight taking up too
much space asking for what she fundamentally did not believe she deserved
In all this there is an intense self-deception. She never
broke from desire and believed she deserved more than she actually did, doing
everything possible to become important without feeling as if she was being
blamed for wanted too much.
She often lost it because someone can confront her and cast
her out and most of the reason for this show of curing maybe to prove to
someone else that she has changed when underneath she remains the same
intensely uncertain person she started as
All of this is again a repeat of what she did previously
after her supposed miracle cure from cancer. She is reinventing herself and issuing
these press releases to show someone else how she has reformed
she said she doesn't want desires
It is safer to stay
away and yet she is so full of it she can hardly breathe. She starved it away
and has become a master of ignoring it
But it's largely always there
it is not even complex; she is simple
but she has impossible
desires. She wants to love fully and to be loved in returned; She wants to be
held to, made love to and feel safe to be free from her own mind.
This as with the previous admission is apparently extended
to influence someone who has made some kind of judgment on her and she is
telling that person she isn't as bad as it appears, a slight of hand perhaps
for a woman who wants openly admitted she trickled up to obtain power
There's a lot of rhetoric in here: her as warrior and being
up for the challenge of life.
Suddenly her meditation brings a revelation, the determination to make even more progress
in the future
The big question of course is what does she mean by progress?